Bandung (Java, Indonesia) is the city where I was born (1953), second child of four, eldest of three daughters. In 1958 our parents repatriated to the Netherlands.
At that time in the Netherlands people were recovering from the German occupation during World War II. This was the case, too, with people repatriating from Indonesia, having suffered from captivity because of the Japanese occupation of Indonesia. In our family we lived with both, but it just wasn’t a subject of communication. Sometimes we had to deal with strong emotions. Although we didn’t understand them, they were an obvious part of the dynamics of our family.
Participation in the employment market started as soon as I finished high school; it lasted forty years. Approximately ten years after having left home I began to realize that life could be different … should be different. I was convinced of the fact that if I would not work on it, I would be dead and buried before the age of fifty. What this was about? I didn’t have the slightest idea. So, I had to search for help. Which I found with this beautiful therapist, who – to my supreme surprise and later-on to my great relief – did not ask for any explanation. With her loving presence, her silent, really effective skills, I learned to look inside. Together we worked on the way I used to experience life, how I used to look at myself, how I used to deal with who I was at the time, how I used to communicate with myself and others. With all gathered insights as well as realizing the impact of my therapist’s interventions I decided to be a therapist, too. Three decades later I experience a lot of satisfaction and happiness having been able to alter the quality of my life. I remain curious towards other old habits, recognizing them, opening my heart for them and make them work in favour of me in the ’here and now’.
In my practice for psychotherapy I apply two working methods: Primal Rebirth® Therapie (PRT®, working with the inner child), and PSYCH-K. Both methods share working on thoughts and beliefs that limit us in our dayly personal functioning. Big difference, though, is that PRT® works on healing the emotional layer connected to these thoughts, as a result of which they will lose power. With PSYCH-K the negative thought is tackled. The emotion underneath this limiting belief is not touched, it may be keeping on popping up every now and then. If a client really wants to avoid working on limiting beliefs with PRT®, PSYCH-K may well be a good alternative. Especially when working with youngsters, as they are in the middle of their personal growth: their individual development will take some more years to come. It would be great for them not to suffer from limiting beliefs, preferably not during the two years preceding their final exams.
My intention is to work with people during many years to come, people maybe wondering, too, how life could be different … more friendly, more free, more cheerful … In order to be able to open oneself for everything else life has to offer. Welcome to it!